Work With Michael

Some questions need
a real conversation.

Not with a book. Not with a framework. With someone who grew up inside this exact experience and can tell you what it actually felt like from the inside out.

One-on-One

Coaching

White adoptive parents come to me when something is happening in their family that they cannot figure out on their own. Their child is pulling away. A conversation went sideways and they do not know why. They can feel that something is off, but they cannot name it. That is exactly the kind of situation I work through with parents in a private, one-on-one video session. Sessions are 60 minutes. We talk through what is actually going on, not a generalized version of it.

Coaching is for you if:

  • Your child is starting to show you, in one way or another, that something about their identity does not feel settled, and you do not know how to respond without making it worse
  • You are about to have a conversation you have been putting off because you are not sure you have the right words, and you want to get it right before you try
  • You have read the books and taken the trainings, and you still feel like you are missing something that no one has been able to tell you directly
  • You want someone to be honest with you about what they see, not someone who will soften the truth to keep you comfortable
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Speaking

Bring Michael to Your Organization

I speak to adoption agencies, parent groups, educators, faith communities, and organizations that are ready to stop talking around transracial adoption and start talking honestly about it. I am not there to make a room feel good about itself. I am there to give people a clear picture of what a Black child raised in a white family actually experiences, what helps, what damages, and what most parents are never told before they bring that child home. That shift in understanding is what I create when I speak.

I speak on:

  • The lived experience of transracial adoption, from the inside
  • What I needed from my white family, and what made the difference when it finally showed up
  • Building cultural identity in a transracial family
  • Race, belonging, and the weight of silence that builds in a Black child without being named
  • What adoption agencies need to prepare parents to hear
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"I'm not presenting data about someone else's experience. I'm sharing mine. And there is a difference between a room that has been informed and a room that has genuinely understood something for the first time. That second thing is what I'm after."
— Michael Gaither
Ready to begin?

I respond personally to every inquiry.

If you are ready to have a real conversation about what is happening in your family, or if you want to bring that conversation to your organization, reach out directly. Tell me what is going on and we will go from there.